What Is Self-Sabotage, and How Can You Fix It?




Self-sabotage happens when we basically get in our own way with certain negative behaviors like procrastination, overeating, excessive drinking, or doing drugs.

 

We generally use self-sabotage to avoid negative feelings


Even if the act of self-sabotage is negative over the long run, it has short-term positives – that is, self-sabotage can make us feel better by distracting us or by "putting off" some unpleasant feeling. Fortunately, you can address and then prevent self-sabotage.

Become aware of what you're doing


Self-sabotage can happen unconsciously. You may feel horrible after a session of self-sabotage – but only truly be aware of what you've done after the fact. The first step to overcoming this is to simply become aware of what you're doing.

Journal about it


Free writing or journaling helps you determine just why you're doing the self-sabotage. Don't judge, just write. Eventually, the reasons for the self-sabotage will be revealed.

Come up with some solutions


Come up with some alternatives to self-sabotage. For example, the next time you want to stuff bad feelings down with cupcakes, decide to write about your feelings instead.

Begin to adopt new habits – and be gentle about it


It's often been said that it takes 30 days to break a bad habit and establish a new one. Self-sabotage is a bad habit that you've gotten into, and it's not going to disappear overnight. However, learning new behaviors will squelch the self-sabotage and ultimately make you a healthier, happier person.

© Barend du Preez


Barend is a social media strategist and entrepreneur with a focus on design and marketing. He has a background in technical engineering, copywriting, graphic design and website development.  For more information on Barend and his services, visit: www.Creative Pink Designs.com